That's about my line as well. I don't want to be the first one to escalate to violence for something that someone *said*. It's different when it's something physical. I've never seriously hit someone first for their opinion (playful silly punching doesn't count; anyone being a creep isn't someone I like enough to punch playfully), distasteful/offensive/threatening as it may be. I wouldn't throw the first punch (much less shoot) the guy with the rape/death threats. But if he touches me I'm going to flatten him.